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Bedtime routines

Bedtime routines

For young kids bedtime routines are so important. Bath, milk, book, cuddles, nursery rhymes and songs…..every parent works out their own version of what works and then tries to stick to it every night. The routine provides comfort and lets the body and mind know it is time to wind down, relax and go to sleep.

Then you grow up and all your ideas about sleep and bedtime change.

In my twenties I had started working full time. The focus was on trying to get enough sleep during the week to get through the work day. Then weekends were multiple late nights out with friends, and sleeping late.

Then in my thirties I had my children. The focus shifts to their sleep requirements, while you struggle through on what you can get. And you start to understand why sleep deprivation is a form of torture. My first child was a great sleeper, my second child the opposite and I was often heading to work on only a couple of hours sleep

Now I am in my forties. My attitude to sleep has changed again and I have gone back to realising how important those bedtime routines are. This time however it is for me, not for my kids. My routine changes slightly but in general:

  • pjs on early,
  • no eating after 8.00pm,
  • small screens ( phone, ipad) down an hour(ish) before bed,
  • Non screen based activity (eg. knitting) and herbal tea while watching tv,
  • Read one or two chapters of book in bed,
  • Lights out and meditate.

It is what works for me, although I am flexible and obviously don’t stick to it when out or with friends.

With an injured leg I have not been following my routines as I currently go to bed at the same time as my kids. I watch tv in bed to force me to put my leg up and stop moving. And while I am sleeping ok I have definitely noticed the difference.

My leg has also prevented me from doing my morning workouts and walks at lunchtime which also helps with sleeping and my mental health.

My lesson learnt – sleep is very important and bedtime routines help with the quality. That is why parents swear by their routines for children.

What are you bedtime routine tips? Any I haven’t thought of that you recommend I give a try

3am thoughts of an over thinker

3am thoughts of an over thinker

I am a light sleeper.

I always have been and over the years it has got worse. Having kids obviously has a big impact on sleep, add to that a separation, child with chronic health issues and being an over thinker/worrier and an eight hour sleep is a pipe dream.

For some reason 3.00am seems to be the time I often wake during the night and then is when the brain and thoughts start ticking away. Sometimes it is a particular topic based on events occurring in my life at the time but often it is very random.

I decided to keep track of the weird places my mind goes at this time of night over the last few nights and share them for your enjoyment. Be warned in the light of day some of this does not make sense.

  • How do I fill the gaps in the ceiling in the back room of the house without the gap filler falling out? (I am currently renovating my house)
  • If I want to reduce screen time in my house what ratio should I reduce it by before it effects the amount of peace in the house?
  • How do I best help my eldest son who suffers a lot with anxiety that is increasing due to his health issues?
  • There is a charity gala for the NF (the genetic disorder my son has) – if I go on my own will it be a way to meet people or make me feel more lonely when they are dancing and I’m alone?
  • Where do I find an 80s outfit for my girls night out in a couple of weeks?
  • How do I get my kids to try more food especially healthy food and why do kids hate green food?
  • What should I bake this weekend?
  • Do I need a hobby or to do a course and when do I have time?
  • If they say you should work in your passion to be happy then what do I do if I don’t know my passion?
  • I need to start a business that will allow me to not have to get my kids up at 6am and be gone for 12 hours a day…….what is that business? (Many weird and wonderful thoughts on businesses at 3am)
  • Did I give tattslotto the correct details as no one has rung me yet?

No wonder there isn’t much sleep happening – who has time. Luckily having a child that didn’t sleep for his first 11 months gave me a lot of practise on surviving on little to no sleep.